Very true points..there is a difference between intentional pregnancy and accidental.....women can and should always use multiple methods of protection available to avoid unplanned pregnancy from men they don't see as family material, or are just having casual sex with.
Using no protection in the haste of excitement has consequences both parties should be old enough to fully understand.... Again, the woman is getting the blame for this, generally speaking, and that's my point. I knew going in that my wife had two kids from two different fathers, but it was open for discussion by her.
Also, as hypocritical as it is, I never seriously dated single fathers. Step parents get accolades because they are accepting responsibility for a child or children that they were not involved in creating or keeping and have no obligation to whatsoever. I simply don't want to ever deal with another woman's kids or Baby Momma Drama.
Alex, wasit an earlier post of yours that mentioned single dads being government certified good guys? Sometimes, single dads are simply the lesser of two evils. That was me, and I didn't say they are government certified good guys, I said due to the difficulty of a man getting custody they appear to be government certified good guys.
Single mom with 2 kids from 2 different dudes is not a good catch. I could see it only being ok if it's a divorced dad with kids.
I've read too many threads about BHs that marry a single mom and try to be a dad to his WW's kid to only get played out a few years down the road.
If the single parent you start dating introduces you to the kids immediately, you may want to think long and hard about their motives. So my wife got pregnant while young and decided to keep the baby. Her second wasn't an accident, and was with someone she was with long term. I see first hand the attitudes women have towards single dads, raising a child on their own. " Just another in a long, long list of ways men judge women sexually. But according to many, she's damaged goods, or it's her fault, or many other assumptions.
Even if you wanted to, I don't think there's anyway to repair the damage already done. One was when she was young, and (obviously) accidental, and he bailed. My second girlfriend had three children ranging from 12 to 5 years. Had she not dumped me for a woman I would have married her.
Step parents get accolades because they are accepting responsibility for a child or children that they were not involved in creating or keeping and have no obligation to whatsoever. I simply don't want to ever deal with another woman's kids or Baby Momma Drama.
Alex, wasit an earlier post of yours that mentioned single dads being government certified good guys? Sometimes, single dads are simply the lesser of two evils. Most single mothers don't get accolades for raising their kids because A) they are the ones who chose to carry to term and keep said kids and B) they are, as parents, obigated to care for their biological chidren.
A woman raising a child on her own because the father is a waste of space? And that's how many people view single mothers, unfortunately. They slept around, or chose the wrong sexual partner (or relationship), or they lied to get custody. I reckon I now know him better than his own wife by now.
Obviously you don't think that of all single mothers, but just the term 'single mother' is enough to make many men make assumptions. Sex is offered once every 3 months and is so robotic I have to stop as she obviously hates it.