This is the first time scientists have demonstrated that even when daughters with present dads dwell on memories of how their fathers disappointed them they may be primed for promiscuity.
This research underscores an important psychological change perceiving greater sexual interest among men, study co-author Danielle J.
Del Priore of the University of Utah said in a statement, “That could increase a woman’s likelihood of engaging in unrestricted or risky sexual behaviour in response to growing up with a disengaged father.” Therefore, the stereotypical “Scary Dad” is not an option that has any chance of achieving good outcomes and handing it completely off to the mothers (if that’s an option) doesn’t really gel with unconditional, do-anything-for-my-kid’s type parenting we all like to think we are capable of. Therefore, it’s up to us dads to be the example of how our daughters should be treated.
It is up to us dads to model the respectful treatment of women (including not denigrating or disrespecting their mothers if you are separated).
It’s even up to us dads not to presume our child’s sexual orientation as this may cause harm down the road when the child starts to reconcile their sexuality with what their parents expect from them.
So, if I reveal my discomfort with Charlie’s sexuality, I’m unintentionally teaching her it’s either something to be afraid of or something to be disdained.
I’ll also be directly or indirectly teaching her I don’t want to be involved in knowing that part of her and that will probably create distance in our relationship.
So let’s consider our options to be the protector in chief as a father does.
Some age-old classic approaches include: Let me start by saying that I in no way consider myself qualified to be the adult in charge of guiding this amazing little girl through life but it’s just Charlie and me so it’s 100 percent up to me ('us as a team', as I always tell Charlie).