He can't read my body language, so a lot of the improvement came down to me being more comfortable with giving him instructions.
We also have plenty of sex that isn't P in V, which takes the pressure off both of us.
I strongly suspect that perseverance and a bit of luck were also major factors.
Practice, Practice, Practice My sex life improved after marriage.
at first but—holy moly—the sex got a fuck of a lot better after the wedding," I wrote in my response to IMDONE.
I did allow for the possibility that my sample was skewed; people with good sex lives don't write to tell me everything's fine.
We are the nation’s leading civil liberties advocate in the Supreme Court.
I struggled with erectile dysfunction during my courtship with my wife.
To the surprise of no one who has ever given sex advice for a living, the sex didn't get better after IMDONE and her boyfriend got married.
"Here's something I've never seen in my inbox: a letter from someone explaining how sex with their partner was infrequent, impersonal, uninspired, unimaginative, etc.
I was a very experienced woman (five years as a swinger and partners numbering in the high double digits) when I first met the man who would become my husband. We also had an amazing friendship, and we were never as happy apart as we were together. We went from once a month to a couple times a week. It's not as frequent as it once was, but it's really good when we have it. Am I the first or the hundredth person to write in? I suspect you don't see it in your inbox very often because this isn't what most people would consider a problem and we don't want to waste your time!
It helped that we shared some kinks and were both up for what we agreed would be a nice and mostly companionate marriage. Turns out he needed that emotional attachment to feel safe and secure enough to open up and relax and enjoy himself. All it took for the sex to get better was practice and paying attention to cues and solving problems.