Conclusion I feel like I’ve failed by only reaching one of the key differences between being single and being in a relationship: that sex in a relationship is far more readily available.
Most couples our sort of age are probably having sex at least 3 or 4 times a week, and that’s being conservative.
It’s played for laughs of course but there is a valuable message there about exploring who you are sexually, and in an open and trusting relationship you can explore that with someone.
You’d have to be a far more liberal person then me to pull out the whips and gags on a one night stand and expect your partner to be totally down with that.
At my regular job I’ve developed something of a reputation for only being into and dating girls of a certain type, cute (typically) shorter girls with big-rimmed glasses who love chatting about nerdy shit.
Thankfully, that type of girl seems really into me (one once said I reminded her of her father – we aren’t on speaking terms anymore).
Done in supportive, safe and consensual manner, a one-time hook-up can be the perfect thing to blow away the cobwebs and feel just the best.
In a relationship you pass all those awkward fumbles and the “Do you mind not sticking that there?
The ability to choose not to have sex is also a freedom you can have in relationship.
What I mean is that if you aren’t really feeling up for a quickie that night, your partner should understand and be happy with a cuddle on a couch.
So you put yourself out there, you download Tinder, you go on dates and if all goes well you’re hopping into bed with someone who wants you.
The thrill of the first time with someone can be intoxicating.