I said to him: "You answered your own question as to how you did it, why you're still friends.
You're not a bridge burner." He smiled and, if this was a novel, he would have said something like: "The world's round - walk far enough, you'll eventually come back to where you started." But it was real life, so he just smiled, then told me he was nonetheless quite happy to tell a f---wit, they were a f---wit, when the situation arose. It's such a great term and I'm guessing it's a hand-me-down from the military, when armies would cross a bridge, then destroy it, so it couldn't be used by the enemy.
The point of it was I knew I wouldn't be able to go back, I knew I'd have to find another life, and thankfully I did (kind of).
I often say it was the best decision of my life because it forced me to start writing what I wanted to and I've been moderately successful at that so far.
I regret no burning my bridges completely with my first love and relationship it, the resentment, lingered for years afterwards as the reasons and circumstances were not things that I should have tolerated so lightly. On reflection for my personality bridge burning would be a good thing, a definite end.
Jeez I'm surprised most of your readers haven't burnt some bridges Sam, judging by comments to date.
Trying to find the exact wording to burn a bridge with an old ex. My problem is that former parters seem to think i want to resume where things were ...However, I felt my soul withering to the size of a Tic Tac.One day I decided to walk out - not resign - but walk out on deadline (very poor form in journalism), burning my boats, bridges and reputation with that particular organisation." I can't remember burning any bridges, but I've seen some collapsing and not bothered to shore them up, or even thought "good". As to the boats, Corts did the same thing -- mostly because he heard his men were going to get back on the boats and abandon him to his fate. The capacity to forgive unconditionally or to have consistent compassion is one of the hardest things to learn and will probably take me a lifetime, but burning bridges will not help me do that."That's the essence right there - if you burn bridges in relationships, in business, in your family - you'd wanna win all your fights ahead of you, because you don't want to be coming back to ask for help from someone you've set on fire." That is one of the wisest things I have ever read.