On the other hand he may like being married and want to be married again. You want a guy who talks to his kids a lot, really seems to love them, and has a good relationship with them. But because you are not the mother of the children, it will make you feel small or like you are less important. It could take years to recover fully from a divorce, financially speaking.It really depends on the guy, but some divorcees really are scared, or if they want to marry again they are "scarred" and fearful that another marriage will have problems. Even if you get close with them, you aren't the mom and will probably always feel like an outsider. And that may mean he is stressed out about money, or has less to spend. It is the closest type of intimate relationship two adults can have.They've already planned a future once, thought seriously about life. They may just be looking to fill a void and not ready for true emotional intimacy.
I am not saying that these things do not apply at all to single men. For example they seemed to understand emotions, how women work, how to make a woman feel comfortable and cared for. The bachelors in their 30s are different than the divorcees from what I have experienced.
MAJOR red flag if he compares you to his ex in any way, shape or form. But like anyone else, you want to be very careful and aware of negative behavior patterns, especially controlling or abusive ones. Abusive men often place a lot of blame on their exes so if you see he has a temper, run, especially if he blames his ex.3. If that's the case it means you should break up or not date him, have space, and if time passes and you cross paths again when he is more stable then maybe it's meant to be.
Honestly he probably will compare in his mind, we all do, but to verbalize it is a whole new issue. But other times he could just be permanently scarred from the marriage.
If they don't learn this, they can make the same mistakes over and over again.
You want a mature partner who can learn from the past to make a better future without getting too jaded or full of blame.