Or, it’s not our woefully lacking sex education that’s responsible for a rise in STIs—no, it’s technology.
(“Swipe Right for STDs” might be my favorite sensationalist headline of the summer.) And most troubling of all: Hookup culture is now to blame in the high-profile sexual assault case of an elite prep school student, who was recently acquitted of the felony charges he faced.
Take the viral piece by Nancy Jo Sales, “Tinder and the Dawn of the Dating Apocalypse,” in the current issue of The entire article functions as a doomsday warning against dating apps, which Sales claims offer only romantically impoverished and ultimately damaging interactions.
Highly unrestricted men do tend to be more manipulative, aggressive, and psychopathic—aka, they’re more often jerks.
If you revisit some of the panicky conservative responses to the sexual revolution in the ’60s, they read strikingly similarly to today’s cautionary tales about hookup culture.
In fact, a main argument in support of the Pill was that technology does not determine behavior, and studies have since validated this assertion: Unmarried women were having sex before the Pill; it was just less out in the open.
Oh, and if you use Tinder, you’re probably going to pick up an STD. Essentially, men are fuck machines with no feelings, and women are victims who are used for casual sex when all they really want is to settle down with a nice guy. ”To make her case, Sales tells a one-sided, myopic story through interviews she conducted with a selection of highly promiscuous and unsavory 20-something men.
According to Vrangalova, there’s nothing wrong with casual sex; it just depends on who you are and how you do it.
By the last round, however, there’s a 50 percent chance of not getting one.” He then non-ironically suggests that women move west of the Mississippi River, where there’s a more balanced gender ratio, and literally says, “Go West, Young Woman.” Like we’re a herd of cattle marching desperately in any direction of a man who will fill our uterus.
To me, it seems increasingly clear that what dating apps and our so-called hookup culture have actually ignited is a strong case of moral panic—the sort of reactionary hysteria that greeted the invention of the birth control pill and, more recently, the legalization of gay marriage.
“Just because you have sex with a lot of people doesn’t mean that you don’t need love and relationships—people will want that no matter what.
However, people may decide to postpone love and relationships in order to have more sex, because we live in a culture that doesn’t leave room for open relationships for the most part.