Online dating is the greatest invention the world has ever seen. You browse profiles, find someone you like and start a conversation.With any luck they will like you back and you can look forward to a new life of love, romance and passionate lovemaking. In reality, it’s like that game at the fun fair where you have to shoot a row of ducks but nobody ever seems to be able to hit the target.It almost doesn’t matter what information you write in your profile as long as you are conveying sincerity and vulnerability.The best way to demonstrate sincerity is to write your main bio in a loose conversational manner without trying to “big” yourself up.Vulnerability is the essence of opening yourself up without fearing rejection. Ask your best friend or someone you trust to proofread your profile to check that what you have written is a fair and honest representation of your personality and you aren’t coming across like a crazy person. Okay, you’ve sorted out your profile and taken some decent pictures, now you’re ready to send your very first message. First, don’t just send messages out blindly: you have to tailor the message to your goals and the person you are writing to.You don’t want to give a beautiful woman a physical compliment because it won’t have a huge effect on her.That is the time when people are generally bored and are at their computers searching for a bit of companionship after their failed attempts at meeting someone the previous night.
After you have built up a little more trust you can then transition to speaking on the phone—hey, you have each other’s number anyway so it makes sense.
Fixed or not, it’s frustrating, and unless you’re a crack Marine Corps sniper, you will often go home empty handed. As a “veteran” of over 60 internet dates and nearly 10 years of negotiating my way through the many, many websites out there, I know firsthand how arduous and frustrating it can be.
I’ve made countless errors, put up stupid pictures, sent even stupider messages and had “sure things” vanish into thin air.
Likewise you don’t want to tease someone who comes across like they might not be the most confident person.
With regards to messaging men, don’t be overly flirtatious as that can immediately set off their BS detector.