Do not confuse being pushy if she turns down an escalation attempt as being aggressive. This is why you must show interest in them not just on an emotional level, but also a sexual level, as both of those are critical components of a relationship.Another problem with taking it slow is just the sheer time.Women are unlikely to be turned off if you touch them, make strong eye contact, kiss them, etc.If she is uncomfortable, she will simply tell you so or indicate such and then you stop with the escalation.Psychopaths, Narcissists and all other types of shady individuals are on their best behavior in the early stages of dating.And it’s usually these shady ones that are the most charming and try the hardest to impress.
You can’t always have sex on the first date, but you should always want to have sex on the first date, even if you’re really into the girl and want a relationship. So stop trying to convince yourself that "taking it slow" is appropriate and stop taking these unnecessary risks.
These types are excellent manipulators and con-men.
If you’ve opened up to these sorts early on, they’ve gained a great advantage, because you’ve already taught them exactly what buttons to push.
I know it sounds intuitive to take it slow with a woman you really want to date, versus one you just want to bang but it is wrong.
Even worse, this myth is constantly perpetuated on dating forums, traditional dating advice columns, Hollywood movies, and by many so called dating experts.