To stay strong after a breakup, cut off ties with your ex, no matter how hard that may seem.
If you feel the urge to call or text your ex, delete their number from your phone. Moreover, get rid of any mementos, such as photos or presents.
Stempfley tells ET that she first met Luyendyk Jr., a race car driver and real estate agent who currently resides in Scottsdale, Arizona, through Instagram."We started talking in January 2016, just through direct message.
We kind of talked off and on just through Instagram, but I landed a job in Scottsdale after graduating [Miami University in Ohio]," she explains.
"The breakup has been absolute hell for sure, but aside from this, he is a really great guy.
We had the best relationship and that's why it's so shocking to me when this [came] out and then you hate to question [the reason] because of his word but at the same time..."Following their breakup, Stempfley tells ET she had actually applied to be on the show after her friends encouraged her to audition.
The 26-year-old receptionist exclusively opened up to ET’s Katie Krause about her more than one-year relationship with 35-year-old Luyendyk Jr., their emotional breakup and the shocking casting news.
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"I asked him, 'If you were becoming the next Bachelor, would you at least have the decency to tell me?
She says they even spent holidays together.“I attended all of his family holidays including Thanksgiving and Christmas," she claims, adding that just within this year, she traveled with the reality star to three of his out-of-state races.“My family was head over heels about him," she shares.
"They thought he was very charming and very sweet and they really liked him.
Also, resist listening to “your song” or going to your favorite places, as this will trigger feelings of sadness.
As you work through your feelings, keep yourself busy with things you enjoy.