This is an interesting behavioral pattern of an anxious-avoidant.She wants things to get deeper -and can’t wait for that to happen- but at the same time she’s scared to get deeper herself without assurance/guarantee that they are a couple (I’m sure you’re familiar with the whole routine here).“So, great date Friday night. In past relationships where there has been a similar level of intimacy, attraction and interest, a momentum builds due to communication and frequency of seeing each other.If a guy isn’t giving me an indication that he’s ready for anything hot and heavy I’ll feel so icky and awkward about bringing this subject up with him. A lot of women do that and they are not getting what they want cause it shows a lack of decorum and it is plain reactive and unattractive. He wants a prize, not a desperate housewife wannabe. You are allowed your own pace but until he is on the same page as you, it’s really futile to force your pace on him. What is the purpose of this drama prone guilt trip imposed on him? If you aren’t comfortable following a man’s lead, then you are not cut out to be with a masculine man -which entails MOST MEN.You lose a score or five in his eyes, that’s why he’s reluctant to run after you. And if you have seen repeated same problems in your previous relationships, it’s time to change that mindset or stay trapped. You don’t want a guy who does things because he has to anyway.Nice dinner, then we went to my place and watched a film. He showered me with compliments, I felt he was really present. Trust builds, too, when people do what they say they will do. I get that I’m getting emotionally attached here, but isn’t that natural?
And this is actually common among women who are avoidant (emotionally unavailable) themselves.They fall for the guy exactly because he’s safe and distant.Say for whatever reason, he’s so sure about wanting a relationship with them, I bet they’ll run for the nearest hills cause “he’s just needy” or “possessive.” You are not ready yourself for anything serious.How can you feel so deep about a guy who keeps a safe distance from you, who only sees you once a week and with little communication in between?Isn’t it your own wishful thinking of his potential instead of who he actually is magnified in your head with more wishful thinking?