But, once you decide a break is the best option, you cannot let your fear of the unknown overshadow the benefits of experiencing individual personal growth.
There is a chance that you will reunite and your relationship will be stronger for it.”Yep, like magic, all your past problems will be gone — “the break” solved everything! “Don’t take a break to avoid working on issues,” says Dr. “Instead, use it to get some space and refocus on what you want out of your relationship.” Yep.
“Often, the desire to ‘separate’ is really the desire to break up but you don't have the nerve to say that outright,” Sedacca says.
“When you establish boundaries and issues you want to address in advance, you then have guidelines for measuring results.
Will you date other people and see who else is out there?
“If it is decided that taking a ‘break’ is the best option, there should be timeframes and boundaries discussed, and a talk about what is hoped to be gained from this time apart,” Rachel Needle, Psy.
But society told me I had to be with one person at a time, with the goal of choosing one person forever. After a really great, long-term, successfully monogamous relationship ended, I was suddenly single in my late twenties and enjoying the freedom and the variety. Adam was fun and our chemistry was fantastic and rare, and though we kept it strictly physical, with those boundaries clearly defined throughout, spending time together was becoming the highlight.“Taking a break is risky,” Shanon Lee, writer, filmmaker, activist and media personality, tells Bustle.“There is no guarantee that your relationship will survive a separation.“If more couples took the mature approach of stepping away from the relationship for a while instead of cheating, then there would be a whole lot more healthy relationships.”I think one of two things are bound to happen during “the break” — you’ll miss your partner so much, you’ll do anything to get back together, no matter what it takes.Or, you’ll realize your life is fine — better, in fact — without them.