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And with that realization, I figured there were probably people in the same or worse position than I was, so there needed to be some kind of structure for all of us. Some JOCs don’t even put up their profile picture to avoid rude comments from site users and moderators alike.
And there are horror stories: The kinds where caramel-skinned Jews get told by matchmakers that they’re “too pretty” to marry Jews who are Black; and the kinds when African-American Jews in their twenties are set up with developmentally challenged 40-year olds. Because people didn’t think she’d mind due to her circumstances. I myself had an interesting multi-email, multi-hour exchange questioning my Jewish identity when I joined online-dating site Frumster (now JWed) out of curiosity.
So this Tu B’Av, I’m reviving the concept and intention behind JOCFlock and relaunching it under the new name, Mosaic Matches (“Mosaic” as in “relating to Moses;” “mosaic” as in “a mural composed of several multi-colored individual pieces;” and “Matches” as in “a collection of single mosaic pieces looking to mingle”).
Five hours later we were at a bar surrendering to the far too many—and far too creepy—things we had in common.
We decided to turn it into a date right then and there. It was called JOCFlock (“JOC” as in “Jews of Color,” and “Flock” as in “a herd of single sheep looking to mingle”), and it was the Internet’s first dating site that catered to Jews of color.
But seriously, whose genius idea was it to place a holiday celebrating passion and romance and love in the dead of winter’s cold, cold heart?
That cute dress you want to wear to the restaurant? Those snakeskin shoes you’ve nicknamed “The Deal-Sealers?