I realised a while ago that I couldn’t ride in the passenger seat with someone at the wheel who was on such a relentless path to self-destruction.
It’s taken many years, a lot of sadness, and a lot of collateral damage to people, relationships and lives outside of his.
You might stop liking them, but you don’t stop loving them.
He will have an army of people behind him and beside him when he makes the decision, but until then, I and others who love him are powerless. Nobody intends for a behaviour to become an addiction, and if you are someone who loves an addict – whether it’s a parent, child, partner, friend, sibling – the guilt, the shame and the helplessness can be overwhelming.QUESTION: I'm looking for advice, and truth, about the potential challenges of dating someone who has formerly struggled with substance abuse.This person is a missionary with an organization that sent him overseas to serve in the area of recovery from abuse & addictions; the same program he went through in his home country.Often, the best ways to respond to an addict have the breathtaking capacity to drown those who love them with guilt, grief, self-doubt and of course, resistance.Loving an addict in any capacity can be one of the loneliest places in the world.