First and foremost, dating is a time when a Christian finds out if his or her potential marriage partner is also a believer in Christ.
The Bible warns us that believers and unbelievers should not marry each other, because those living in the light (of Christ) and those living in the darkness cannot live in harmony (2 Corinthians -15).
However, whether in ancient or modern times, a wall of division or unjust imprisonment that cuts one off from freedom or family can be a source of anguish and pain.
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Many in a courtship relationship will not spend any time together unless family members, preferably parents, are present at all times.
In addition, courting couples state up front that their intentions are to see if the other person is a suitable potential marriage partner.
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In America, we could also add the “right to carry”—that is, to carry guns. There are helpful walls, and there are harmful walls.
Many Christians see dating as little more than friendship and maintain the friendship aspect of their dating until both people are ready to commit to each other as potential marriage partners.
Of course, the courtship style presents its own set of difficulties.
While many courtship advocates see it as the only choice for finding a mate, others find it oppressive and overly controlling.
It has not come naturally for me, being from a family that valued openness almost to a fault.
I was the child of a military family and we moved a lot.