I checked the "woman" box and then proceeded to the next question, which asks if you are seeking a woman or a man. I am seeking love, and fun, but ultimately love, and I just don't know if that will be found in a man or a woman.
It strikes me that there are two options: I can 1) choose a gender that is appealing to me right at this moment, or 2) create two separate profiles. ) Then there is OKCupid, an extremely popular site not only because it is free but because it offers an app with a Grinder-type platform, and because it's what all the young NYC kids use these days. This is a little more inclusive, which of course makes me feel better, though it is not truly all-inclusive.
The first seems less viable, because I truly like both genders, and I hate to be boxed in so tightly. After I check "bisexual," I have the option to click "I do not want to see or be seen by straight people." But wait! In my previous relationships, both short ones and long-lasting ones, I have dated straight men, so of course I want them to be able to view my profile.
The second option seems daunting, because, again, if you have ever filled out an online dating profile, you know it is a tedious, aggravating procedure. My profile now states that I am bi and looking for guys and girls who like bi girls. As much as I like to avoid stereotypes, I couldn't help but wonder how many gay women would actively search out bi women on a dating site.
When I came out to my parents, I was so nervous but it was super easy.When signing in to for the first time, the first thing that appears is a banner that exclaims, "It's easy to get started!" You and I both know that this is not entirely true, considering how many questions you have to answer to complete your profile (physical characteristics as well as "likes" and "dislikes") and how much of a pain it is to allocate and upload attractive photos of yourself. Immediately it asks if you are a woman or a man, which is fine for me but isn't necessarily an easy question for others who don't identify with one or either gender. Why are you making me decide something that I can't answer so definitively?Now, I know I am just one girl, and this is by no means a well-researched or planned experiment, but I can't help but feel that there are consequences to checking the "bi" box.Again, I tell myself that it should not be this difficult.