The idea that I could ever re-create that relationship has never crossed my mind. We are all looking for some kindness and peace with each other so let’s go out and make it happen.” Regarding marriage, Sid added, “Never say never, but it would take a real special woman who really understands widowhood, like another widow.
While I see a couple of ladies, there is a different kind of ‘love’ with them, very different than my love for my wife. Yes.’ And I think that is about the best either a widow or widower can expect. “A lot of the problems I see between older singles revolve around communication issues. For instance, I was out to dinner the other night with a good lady friend having a great time, and suddenly I wanted my wife with me having this great time, not this friend.
When a husband or wife is tragically lost, the widow or widower is left to adapt to a new lifestyle and a new sense of independence.
Unfortunately for many, this leads to departure from previous social circles, which can result in loneliness, anxiety, and depression.
We think it’s important to know that widowhood can be the most difficult and distressing time in a person’s life.
When a spouse passes away, the remaining individual is left with a different lifestyle, a loss of dependence, and a broken heart.
Although I am grateful for every year she was in my life, I do not want to go through that experience again.“My question: If there are so many women out there that value their independence and ‘don’t need a man to complete them,’ why is my position such a problem? “Lastly, in my experience, it takes a widow to understand a widower and vice versa.Obviously there is no ‘bad’ person in some of these relationships, just two people with different goals of what they want in life, both struggling to achieve them.” Randy went on to say, when men don’t want to remarry later in life, and they are honest about those feelings with the women they date, “these women have to decide to accept those terms or move on to someone whose goals match their goals with the recognition that at this point in life, finding a caring and compatible relationship is a rare jewel indeed.” Sid, another widower, said, “I lost my wife to cancer and really miss her every day. I have dated divorced women who have also lost their marriage and they have a different view toward the relationship than I had.“I was afraid that even a little acknowledgement, a crumb of ‘yes, I love you too,’ would be a reinforcement of what their idea of the future was.Never was this done lightly or without thought of the pain I was giving, but still, I have always believed that total honestly was and is the best policy.