Here’s advice and for both what to expect on the fourth date, and how to enjoy it at the same time. Expectations should be normal, and etiquette should be casual, but present.This may seem obvious, but if you’re not having a great time on your fourth date, whatever it is you’re doing, this probably isn’t going to work in the long run. All this said, there shouldn’t be too much effort involved now. Essentially all first dates include a lot of the standard get-to-know-you questions.Do you find the same things funny or interesting or strange?It should be as if you're with a great friend, and maybe you're sharing tips on how to score cheap tickets to a killer show, or searching for the meaning behind a bizarre movie you both saw.The evening should give you butterflies – it’s a date for just the two of you, not something manufactured for a stranger. If you’re doing something you aren’t excited about, that means either your date doesn’t know you very well, or he hasn’t been listening, or maybe it’s about him more than you. It’s fine enough that you can talk about yourselves, but can you talk about things outside of your world? Do you both like tennis, or the same TV shows, or skateboarding?Whatever these things are, you should feel in line with one another.
A person’s romantic history can open up a world of information about them. Take note if that’s a sore subject, it may come back to haunt you later on.
Having a good time should be the easiest part of a date, after all. Don't be fake, of course, but this isn’t the time to break out the smelly sneakers and fraying T-shirt. Where you grew up, what your families are like, where you went to school, if you had pets, what you do for work, and on.
By now, you and your date have a certain level of understanding about what fun actually is, and if it’s not the same for the both of you, then that’s not good for a relationship. You’ve had three good dates, you’ve texted, you’re attracted to one another, and so it’s only natural that you relax around this person. By the fourth date, you’re well beyond the baseline dialogue.
By the fourth date you're definitely into each other, so there’s no need to rush the sex.
A lot happens after that, and you need to make sure you guys are ready for all of the complexity.